“Scars Are Meant To Heal”

To-Save-a-Life-christian-movies-paddedScars are meant to heal“.  I chose the phrase as the title of this article as it is a quote which stood out for me from the film ‘To Save A Life.’

I have been slowly building my library of Christian and faith-based movies of late and one of my kids (Devon) told me about the ‘To Save A Life’ movie.  “Dad, you simply have to get it.  It is one of my favorite Christian movies.”  He told me.

But he also added the warning, “But be real careful when you watch it Dad, because it deals with, and even has a scene with, some self-harming.”

Of course, he knows that I have had a history of self-harming in the past and that I – like many others – still struggle with it when my mind gets bad.

And the truth is that one of the aspects of self-harming (and one which is extremely dangerous and unhealthy) is that it is often done in secret and all too often kept hidden.  Fears of being considered a freak, or judged or ridiculed, or rejected, accompany this and all too often compel us away from the very help that we need.

So, as a Christian Dad, I decided that I would not allow myself to hide this – or my mental health issues – any more.  Either from my children (who were old enough to understand what was going on) or from anyone else who should know.

And I have to tell you that it (deciding to no longer hide it and to actually get help with it) was probably one of the best decisions I have made.

Do I still struggle with self-harming?  Yes, the truth is that I do.  [And I say that in full knowledge that articles from this blog automatically go on my Facebook page and that others who know me (including folk from church) might read this.]  But I truly believe that there is indeed hope and that sharing information about this particular movie – and it’s content and message – is so very important.

Actually. the film deals with far more than self-harming.  It deals with teenage suicide as well.  And it looks at feelings of; isolation, loneliness, hopelessness, alienation and desperation, as well as other topics and it also challenges the church’s approach to these issues.

In truth I am no teenager, and in truth it has been many years since I was one.  But those feelings – feelings of; isolation, loneliness, hopelessness, alienation and desperation are far from being exclusive to teenagers and in truth suicidal thoughts and suicidal ideation are no respecter of age or color or status or creed.

I watched the ‘To Save A Life’ movie this morning and I would (the warning below having been given) recommend it to any one – especially parents, youth workers and church leaders as a movie well worth watching. And I am very grateful to Devon for recommending it to me.

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– TRIGGER WARNING –

BUT if you struggle with suicidal thoughts or self-harming I would not recommend that you watched it alone.  The movie is both very real and very hard-hitting!

Please, if you struggle with either of these, only watch this film with others who you trust.

Scars are meant to heal.”  I absolutely believe this.  And I absolutely believe that that healing is available if only we know where to look for it and if only we can reach out and grasp it!

I know that mine, by the grace of God and the love of those who truly care for me, are healing.  And it is my hope and my prayer that you too – if you are struggling with these issues can reach out to someone and find that help and that healing.

There truly is hope and you truly do matter!

God bless you.

Kevin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2 thoughts on ““Scars Are Meant To Heal”

  1. phoenix42013 says:

    Hi Kevin thank you so much for sharing this post. I need to watch this movie it’s like my life story be told in a movie. I am seeking helping and working to rebuild my relationship with God.

    • boldkevin says:

      Hi Phoenix,

      Firstly, I need to make a huge apology to you.

      For some reason I was not aware that you had made a comment. 😦

      In all honesty I am not sure if the notification just didn’t come through or if it went to my spam folder or if indeed I simply got the notification but didn’t fully register it. (Sadly that happens sometimes when a notification comes in during a period when my mental health is not so good.)

      Normally I catch them when my mental health improves a little. But for some reason I have only just now seen yours.
      So please accept my sincere apologies for that. I do try to respond to each and every comment that I am aware of.

      It really is an excellent movies, but again I emphasize that there are some graphic scenes in it.

      You mention that you are seeking help and working on rebuilding your relationship with God. I am so delighted to hear that and if I can help in any way please, please do feel free to contact me. Either here or through my email of kevin.a.deane@gmail.com.

      I truly believe that God is a loving heavenly Father and desires to have a good relationship with us. And I am also convinced that all too often our relationship with God suffers as a result of our relationship with ourselves.

      Thank you so very much for taking time to comment and please know that my offer to help where I am able is sincere.

      Kind regards and God bless you. You will be in my prayers.
      Kevin

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